What would you say to your 16 year old self?
Given the chance I would give myself a darn good talking to. I guess that’s why I am always talking to my kids. Back when I was 16, I was so unsure of myself, lacking confidence and trying to grow up so quickly to fit into the adult world I was in. I was working full time, I was living with my boyfriend and I didn’t respect my elders nearly as much as I should have.
So what would I tell myself? Firstly I find myself wondering if I would have listened? I didn’t really have anyone telling me what to do, except maybe my Oma, who cried and told me that I was breaking my fathers heart and I should be a good girl.
I really wasn’t a bad girl, just a little young to be doing the things I was doing. I sometimes wonder how different life could have been if my had family hadn’t split up and if I had continued going to school. I loved school and wanted to go to university. For me, this was not to be and all throughout history I guess we could say “what if”.
If I could travel back in time tonight to my 16 year old self, I would tell her that everything is going to turn out fine, I know how she worries she is not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough. So far we have got along in life happily, with lots of wonderful things to enjoy along the way, and some amazing challenges that we will get through. I would tell her to have faith and believe in herself, that she is stronger that she could ever imagine.
Maybe I could tell her to take shares in Microsoft and Google.
But I know what she would REALLY want to know and I would assure her that her boyfriend would indeed marry her and that we would have children. Her parents loved her and still love her. I would tell her to stop feeling inadequate, and that her life will not turn out the way she planned, but it will be a wonderful life just the same.
I would promise her that her deepest wishes would all come true and to continue to enjoy the journey.
And she would look at me, roll her eyes and say ” Nah… your a crack-pot”.
So I pose the question to you. What would you say to your 16 year old self?